Tuesday, November 21, 2006

A Good Man is Hard to Find
Or a Hard Man is Good to Find?

The age old question. I haven't been able to figure it out yet.
I can see both sides of the argument; both have their set backs and bonus'.
A good man is so hard to find. People put on fronts and sometimes once you figure it out, it's just too late. I am my own worst enemy. I am chronically attracted to the typical "bad boy"; you know who I'm talking about. The guys who are too cocky for their own good, the ones that don't care if you care or not. The ones that let you in just a little bit to give you some hope then slam the door. They are the sex gods, the ones that could probably have sex for a living. They are always horny and will do as many girls as humanly possible.
The Good man will treat a lady right. He will be devoted to her and will want to take care of her, regardless if she wants it or not. He is trustworthy and honest. He is hard to find.
I want a guy to be devoted to me, to want to be with me. But relationships can a bunch of bullshit. You get so involved that you forget about the rest of your life. I've been there before, when all you can think about is that person and when you fight it feels like your life is over. I don't want that to happen to me again.
So the appeal of a casual friend is there, a traditional 'bad boy' who is really only good for one thing. This relationship gives both of you your freedom, but still satisfying your needs. But who wants to share a guy? We all know that he's probably with more than one woman. You don't get the love and tenderness with a casual friend than you do with a steady partner.
It just seems like trading bullshit for bullshit.

3 comments:

YourSecretLover said...

Go for the good guy. If he's that awesome he will give you your space, but know when you need him. It's hard not to lose yourself in the relationship, but sometimes when it's right, it's ok.

MsPatricia said...

i agree whole-heartedly with jaime's statement.
the good one's are worth the wait. and yeah, you may get caught up in all of it, but it's only because it's so good you can't help yourself. even the bad times are still good.

Miss.Emily said...

Oh, wise words ladies. Despite me and my complete lack of experience in either of these areas, I still find myself waiting for the good guy. And if all this waiting is for something that makes me forget about the rest of my life, then I'm fucked. I refuse to believe my life goes away when I meet "the one." It maybe changes, but isn't it all worth it?